Finally, acquaintances gradually blend into the endless world of strangers.
And depending on who you are and how things shook out in those first 25 years, the way your particular mountain looks will vary.
If you live in the same city, you might see them every month or two for dinner and have a great time when you do, but if one of you moves, you might not speak for the next year or two.
And if something huge happens in their life, there’s a good chance you’ll hear it first from someone else.
The lowest part of Tier 3 begins to blend indistinguishably into your large group of acquaintances (the pink zone)—those people you’d stop and talk to if you saw them on the street or would maybe email for professional purposes, but whom you’d never hang out with one-on-one.
When you hear that something bad happens to one of these people, you pretend to be sad but you don’t actually care.
Possibility #2 is a pretty dark situation for your friend, but it can actually be fun for you.
I have a friend who I’ve hung out with one-on-one about four times in the last year, and he has no idea Wait But Why exists.
__________ When you’re a kid, or in high school, or in college, you don’t really work too hard on your friend situation. For a bunch of years, you’re in a certain life your parents chose for you, and so are other people, and none of you have that much on your plates, so friendships inevitably form.In almost every group of friends, there’s one pair who can’t ever be alone together.It’s not that they dislike each other—they might get along great—it’s just that they have no individual friendship with each other whatsoever.Then in college, you’re in the perfect friend-making environment, one that hits all three ingredients sociologists consider necessary for close friendships to develop: “proximity; repeated, unplanned interactions; and a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other.” More friendships happen.Maybe they’re the right friends, maybe they’re not really, but you don’t put that much thought into any of it—you’re more of a passive observer.
I’ve known him for 14 years and I’m not sure he knows if I have siblings or not.